Men are from Mars and women from Venus, friction between the two is inevitable and romantic feelings are bound to creep-in between, but can’t the two ever be ‘just friends’? The concept of platonic friendship still remains as unclear and confusing as ever. Opposite sexes are always ‘meant’ to draw each other, love, fight, and that’s about it. Or is it? The notion that the two cannot be plain friends seems to be changing, but the question is to what extent?
With women becoming more career oriented and independent, social and workplace friendships are definitely on the rise. Even the school time or college friendships are known to become stronger with passing time (if they don’t blossom into love). When in a group, men and women mix with one another freely, hang-out, share jokes and get along just fine, but when it comes to one-on-one friendship, it surely does get a wee bit tricky. After all there is but a thin line between friendship and love...
Yes, even in a friendship it’s the opposite traits that attract men and women to get close. It is a common fact that women love to talk. When in their girl-gang, they talk (read gossip) endlessly about everything under the sun - from make-up to men, from career choices to family to friends and from reel stars to real life issues.
Now turn to men and you’ll find most of them glued to the TV watching their favourite sport, guzzling bottles of beer, drooling over someone or wondering why women are SO DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND. This may not be all that men and women do, but it surely does come close. Women can sometimes be very bitchy and says things behind your back but men say it ON UR FACE! Ask any girl who has consoled a heart-broken friend over endless phone calls and she’ll tell you that female friends do come with lots of emotional baggage and being with a guy acts as a breath of fresh air at times. The case with men isn’t too different either
But the thought of the whole male-female chemistry igniting is always thought lurking at the back of one’s mind. They start off as good friends, their intimacy eventually matures into love.
Endless movies that show childhood ‘just good friends’ growing up to be lovers.If a movie like Dil to Pagal Hai tried to prove that a man and woman can be just friends, the movie Kuch Kuch Hota Hai proved otherwise with a certain KHAN eventually falling in love with ‘friend’ Kajol.
Maybe one shouldn’t spoil a good friendship by bringing romance in it or maybe good friendships turn into good romances, but questions arise only when other people start talking. What happens to an otherwise healthy platonic friendship when tongues start wagging and suspicions about the ‘real’ sense of that friendship do the rounds?
So be it opposite natures that attract men and women to be friends or just plain compatibility, cross-sex friendships do happen and most times both friends cherish it more than a same-sex one. Though even today eye-brows do rise when a girl hugs her guy friend and falling in love with your ‘friend’ is a possibility, there is still a lot to look forward to when two people from the opposite sex become ‘just friends’.
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This is like coffee bite, no?
"Argument continues..." :)
"But the thought of the whole male-female chemistry igniting is always thought lurking at the back of one’s mind. They start off as good friends, their intimacy eventually matures into love."
Nope. not true.
"maybe good friendships turn into good romances, but questions arise only when other people start talking. What happens to an otherwise healthy platonic friendship when tongues start wagging and suspicions about the ‘real’ sense of that friendship do the rounds?"
Sensible good friendship is built on trust. To answer your question, nothing happens unless either one of the friends is insecure and immature.
"cross-sex friendships do happen and most times both friends cherish it more than a same-sex one"
IF you look at it as same-sex friendship or cross-sex friendship, u r classifying friendship. To me friendship is just friendship...with no other classifications.
"there is still a lot to look forward to when two people from the opposite sex become ‘just friends"
Look forward ? do u have no other job other than to look at other friends and analyse whats going on with them? Live your life dude.
@ ramc,
Opinion is Polarized :P
ur "COMMENTS" alone is appreciated here,don hafta reiterate what i said!Takes toooo much of ma space :)
Prune it next time :P
@ramc
I agree that "Sensible good friendship is built on trust" but that doesn't mean it can't become a relationship because even in relationships trust is most important. I think it's quite thoughtless to say things like "nothing happens unless either one of the friends is insecure and immature" because that will mean that one falls in love with a friend because he/she is immature or insecure, and for no other reason, which doesn't make sense (especially considering the number of people who have been great friends before becoming partners).
@ Abi
I think you didn't quite get what I was saying there....I am answering his question about "What happens to an otherwise healthy platonic friendship when tongues start wagging and suspicions about the ‘real’ sense of that friendship do the rounds?"
And to that, I am saying that the friendship will not suffer or run into problems because of what people around them talk,if they are both mature and sensible.
I am not saying "one falls in love with a friend because he/she is immature or insecure, and for no other reason". Matter of fact, I would like to think that one can only fall in love with a friend, and not some random X or Y who they have seen for the first time.
Like if your name had been abhinaya, and you and me are good friends, and if people around us have doubts about the intentions of our friendship, I would say "Fuck them", and I would still be the same friend.
And if we do have something going on between us, then its well and good, cos I am now in a relationship with a friend. And to the people wagging their tongues about that, the answer is still the same.
At the same time,I would never agree that all intimate friendships with the opposite sex eventually turn into love. That would mean that I would have to be in love with a lot of girls at the same time.
And lastly,if i do sound caustic or brash, I apologize. But you have to understand, its Veera's blog, and I cannot sound nice here.
Reading comprehension is a gift.
Hmmm... Now it does seem like we are pretty much on the same page.
>> "Reading comprehension is a gift."
[Ab] Yes, but it also depends on how well the piece is written.
@ abhi
I am bad at writing. Point conceded.
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