Few things so drain our mind as the intricacies of liaisons. (Read Gen X).
Is it a must to get “HOOKED UP”? More importantly, is it worth???.. Does the sight of seeing someone go on a movie-dinner-double date make u crawl under the carpet?
Stop wallowing in self-pity. Just ask urself are you really lonely or do you want to be in a relationship just because its ‘cool’ and all your friends have one. Do you really want the phone running off the hook and having your newfound love ask you about your whereabouts every single minute of the day? Do you really want to tag him or her along wherever you go???? Do you really want to be told what to wear and that your favourite jeans are so passé?? And worst of all, do you want to stop talking to all your guy/girl friends you’ve known for years only because your partner feels insecure about them??
Quite often, though not always, ‘love’ becomes suffocating after a while. At times, so much so that people feel that they are losing their own identity and being only what their loved one wants them to be.
If u r in love, u wudnt remember any weekend when u had the freedom to go shopping alone or hang out with your friends. Boyfriends assume weekends r only for them. A “ COMMITTED” girl gives up talking to most of her guy friends bcoz “HE” feels insecure with them n she tends to lose her identity in the process. On the other hand, if u r single u have all the freedom to do what u want to do without being answerable to anyone.
Its true that being in a relationship gives you a companion but after a while it also starts interfering with your privacy. Its also bout setting priorities. One shudnt get in to a r’ship at the cost of one’s career.While it’s true that companionship is a beautiful part of a relationship, privacy is equally important. The tricky part is keeping the balance and knowing where to draw the line.The most beautiful relationships are the ones that give you space. You can go places if your partner is supportive. So, being in a relationship may not necessarily mean that you lose your independence. Sometimes, spending time alone can also get difficult.
Being single is not always easy, there are times when you just want to share that special moment with someone...but till that special someone comes along, enjoy some ‘my time’!
In fact, being single may be the most wonderful thing that could have happened to you. You can go out shopping alone without getting frantic phone calls from your partner to know your whereabouts, u can pamper yourself by experimenting with your looks without getting worried whether he or she will like it or not,u can go out with all your friends and flirt to your heart’s content without anyone stopping you from doing so. And, if you are still thinking whether this is the right thing to do, don’t trust your ‘conscience’, for it will never stop you from doing anything wrong, it’ll only stop you from enjoying it! You can grab a packet of popcorn and go out to watch your favourite romantic film without any one to laugh at you for sobbing through the film :)
The verdict is………
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
Wednesday, May 7, 2008
Just Friends???
Men are from Mars and women from Venus, friction between the two is inevitable and romantic feelings are bound to creep-in between, but can’t the two ever be ‘just friends’? The concept of platonic friendship still remains as unclear and confusing as ever. Opposite sexes are always ‘meant’ to draw each other, love, fight, and that’s about it. Or is it? The notion that the two cannot be plain friends seems to be changing, but the question is to what extent?
With women becoming more career oriented and independent, social and workplace friendships are definitely on the rise. Even the school time or college friendships are known to become stronger with passing time (if they don’t blossom into love). When in a group, men and women mix with one another freely, hang-out, share jokes and get along just fine, but when it comes to one-on-one friendship, it surely does get a wee bit tricky. After all there is but a thin line between friendship and love...
Yes, even in a friendship it’s the opposite traits that attract men and women to get close. It is a common fact that women love to talk. When in their girl-gang, they talk (read gossip) endlessly about everything under the sun - from make-up to men, from career choices to family to friends and from reel stars to real life issues.
Now turn to men and you’ll find most of them glued to the TV watching their favourite sport, guzzling bottles of beer, drooling over someone or wondering why women are SO DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND. This may not be all that men and women do, but it surely does come close. Women can sometimes be very bitchy and says things behind your back but men say it ON UR FACE! Ask any girl who has consoled a heart-broken friend over endless phone calls and she’ll tell you that female friends do come with lots of emotional baggage and being with a guy acts as a breath of fresh air at times. The case with men isn’t too different either
But the thought of the whole male-female chemistry igniting is always thought lurking at the back of one’s mind. They start off as good friends, their intimacy eventually matures into love.
Endless movies that show childhood ‘just good friends’ growing up to be lovers.If a movie like Dil to Pagal Hai tried to prove that a man and woman can be just friends, the movie Kuch Kuch Hota Hai proved otherwise with a certain KHAN eventually falling in love with ‘friend’ Kajol.
Maybe one shouldn’t spoil a good friendship by bringing romance in it or maybe good friendships turn into good romances, but questions arise only when other people start talking. What happens to an otherwise healthy platonic friendship when tongues start wagging and suspicions about the ‘real’ sense of that friendship do the rounds?
So be it opposite natures that attract men and women to be friends or just plain compatibility, cross-sex friendships do happen and most times both friends cherish it more than a same-sex one. Though even today eye-brows do rise when a girl hugs her guy friend and falling in love with your ‘friend’ is a possibility, there is still a lot to look forward to when two people from the opposite sex become ‘just friends’.
With women becoming more career oriented and independent, social and workplace friendships are definitely on the rise. Even the school time or college friendships are known to become stronger with passing time (if they don’t blossom into love). When in a group, men and women mix with one another freely, hang-out, share jokes and get along just fine, but when it comes to one-on-one friendship, it surely does get a wee bit tricky. After all there is but a thin line between friendship and love...
Yes, even in a friendship it’s the opposite traits that attract men and women to get close. It is a common fact that women love to talk. When in their girl-gang, they talk (read gossip) endlessly about everything under the sun - from make-up to men, from career choices to family to friends and from reel stars to real life issues.
Now turn to men and you’ll find most of them glued to the TV watching their favourite sport, guzzling bottles of beer, drooling over someone or wondering why women are SO DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND. This may not be all that men and women do, but it surely does come close. Women can sometimes be very bitchy and says things behind your back but men say it ON UR FACE! Ask any girl who has consoled a heart-broken friend over endless phone calls and she’ll tell you that female friends do come with lots of emotional baggage and being with a guy acts as a breath of fresh air at times. The case with men isn’t too different either
But the thought of the whole male-female chemistry igniting is always thought lurking at the back of one’s mind. They start off as good friends, their intimacy eventually matures into love.
Endless movies that show childhood ‘just good friends’ growing up to be lovers.If a movie like Dil to Pagal Hai tried to prove that a man and woman can be just friends, the movie Kuch Kuch Hota Hai proved otherwise with a certain KHAN eventually falling in love with ‘friend’ Kajol.
Maybe one shouldn’t spoil a good friendship by bringing romance in it or maybe good friendships turn into good romances, but questions arise only when other people start talking. What happens to an otherwise healthy platonic friendship when tongues start wagging and suspicions about the ‘real’ sense of that friendship do the rounds?
So be it opposite natures that attract men and women to be friends or just plain compatibility, cross-sex friendships do happen and most times both friends cherish it more than a same-sex one. Though even today eye-brows do rise when a girl hugs her guy friend and falling in love with your ‘friend’ is a possibility, there is still a lot to look forward to when two people from the opposite sex become ‘just friends’.
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